Food for Thought

I heard a man talk today about marriage and divorce. It was so true. He said that today people jump into bed before finding out if they are compatible. Meaning what is their common thread. Are they the same religion, do they have the same family values, was their upbringing similar, do they want the same things out of life? He stated that jumping into bed should not be the first thing a couple does to find out if they are compatible, in fact, it should be the last thing. Get to know that person, find out what he or she was like as a child, what their likes and dislikes are, and see if you have fun together. Not all people who have the same religion are going to magically get along, or not all people who have the same family values will get along, but that is the beauty of it all. Get to know that person. Remember in the old days when they talked about courting? Try it, it works.

Realizations

Life is fragile. We don't think so, but it can be gone in a second without any warning and then the rest of the world is left to pick up the pieces and carry on. We all know that there is a beginning and an end; we know when the beginning starts, but we don't know when the end comes. We just pray that we are prepared for it.

I have been to more funerals than most people and partly it is because I have such a large extended family. What I have noticed is that the older I get and the people who pass on are closer to me, it affects me more deeply. It is as if I am finally realizing my own immortality. I mourn for my family, but also a little for me. I don't want to be alone.

Don't even breath without asking me!

That's what my son told his sister after I left them alone for awhile. When my daughter told me that I almost burst out laughing, but I held it in for fear of hurting her feelings. Why is it that the older sibling always gets that tone of superiority when the parents are gone? It's because they know they are in charge and the younger ones have to listen to them. I'm not so sure that I wouldn't have done the same thing. I never did, but that was because I wasn't the oldest sibling. My older sisters stayed home with us. So I had to listen to them tell me what to do while my parents were gone. As a matter of fact, maybe that is why my parents were hardly ever away from us.